We project our value to the world. We are all valuable in our own way. Society often expects specific standards, leading to feelings of inadequacy if we don’t conform to a certain norm. It can be very harmful unless we realise that our value comes from within, and it’s up to us to project it to the world. In this blog post, we’ll learn how to appreciate our inherent value and how to know your worth as a woman.

Your value is inherent

For us women, much of our confidence and self-worth is often tied to our appearance. A lot. Whether we like it or not, society places a heavy emphasis on youth and beauty as measures of our value, and we are scared to lose these attributes as we age. However, that’s just what others perceive and I am trying to illustrate how it doesn’t matter to your intrinsic value.

We all age and it in no way diminishes our value, beauty or worth. Full stop!

Ageing is a privilege not everyone gets to experience.

You have inherent value simply by being. You are a unique person with a set of qualities and skills nobody else has. There are many things at which you are good, you are nurturing, and curious about the world. Your value is substantial, even if you don’t see it yourself yet. Moreover, you have the power to create, bring peace to your loved ones, and even create life. How cool is that?

Our worth and value comes from within. While compliments and external validation can boost our self-esteem temporarily, they often leave us feeling inadequate once they stop coming our way. Why is this? It’s because the validation was external. So, once its source stops, the good feeling about yourself stops, too. This is not how to know your worth as a woman.

This is why it’s so important to acknowledge your intrinsic value and believe in it, so that this validation is always present within you. It’s like having a team of motivational speakers in your mind.

What cured my complexes

What truly boosted my self-esteem was discovering effective skin and hair care routines for me, defining my personal style and… hanging childhood pictures in my room. Seriously. Once I learned how to care for myself and dress in a way that suits me, I genuinely started to love how I look. Radiant skin is better than makeup in my opinion.

Hanging the pictures of little Marta was the final piece of the self-confidence puzzle – looking at my younger self, I couldn’t believe how such a lovely girl could ever feel ugly? She is gorgeous! Those cheekbones, that smile, those pretty eyes, and the shape of her face are truly unique. None of these features have changed, so why should I feel any less beautiful now?

Also, turning 30 had a significant impact on my self-perception. What I could improve about my looks and personality – I did. What I couldn’t – I accepted. I no longer concern myself with others’ opinions because I know who I am and what I want. I know what I represent and I remain open-minded about different opinions and angles, but overall, criticism doesn’t affect me much.

For the record, I am not deluding myself into thinking I’m the most beautiful woman out there. There’s a difference between delusion and appreciating what you have. We live in a world with figures like Angelina Jolie and Instagram models. And in comparison, most of us feel like we fade away. However, that’s not the point.

The point is that we feel attractive because we have appreciation of ourselves and we recognise our strengths. We know we get better every day and understand our intrinsic value and the effort we’ve invested throughout our lives.

See your value and worth

Appreciating your own value and learning to love yourself is a journey that requires self-awareness, practice, and patience. A woman who knows her worth is a high value woman behaviour. Read more about how to be a high value woman.

Remember, we project our value to the world. So it’s very important that we recognise our with and appreciate it ourselves, as we radiate to the world our confidence as well as our insecurities.

Here are the five ways that can help you on this path to self-love and self-appreciation and how to know your worth as a woman:

1. Appreciate Your Body

First and foremost, stop calling yourself ugly once and for all. You are not ugly! We need to improve our relationship with our bodies and faces, treat them well with the best nutritious foods, healthy exercise, and care, and simply be good to them. Your body IS you, and I don’t like to differentiate between the two too much.

It’s easier said than done, but one day I just woke up and decided I am hot and I feel good in my own skin. From now on, I feel confident, and nothing and nobody can shake this feeling. Practise positive affirmations and self-talk because there is power in repetition until we start believing in it.

Appreciate that your body is healthy and gets you to places to experience life and its pleasures.

2. No Comparisons

There is absolutely no point in comparing yourself to others. I hate the “out of 10” rating that people use to assess each other’s attractiveness. It’s toxic, harmful, and untrue. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Most people are average – there, I said it. I am average and you are probably, too. Yet we would not give ourselves a rating of 5/10 because everyone thinks they are hotter than they really are. And they would give themselves at least 6, which is above average. And for someone else we will be 8/10, because of the full person that we are, not just because of our looks.

I prefer to be a solid 5 and work with what I have, chase my goals, and improve my life than doing everything in my power to be seen as 8/10. There is no feeling inferior to others, not even one bit. I know my strengths, and I know how to look and feel good.

I only compare myself to my past self. Do I know more than I did 5 years ago? Am I closer to my dream life than I was 10 years ago? Damn right I am. And so are you.

3. Self-compassion and Understanding

Forgive yourself and practise radical acceptance. Be proud of who you are and who you were. The past has led you here and to who you are today, so even setbacks in our lives contribute to building what we have now.

Reflect on the positive impact you have on the lives of others, your work, community, and the world. If you think you don’t contribute, remind yourself of when you listened to your friend when they were in need or how people were happy to see you or how you recently excelled at work. These might be small things, but they prove you are valuable to others and their life wouldn’t be the same without you.

For this, express gratitude every day and reflect on the positive events of that day before falling asleep. It will wire your subconsciousness positively, and if you make a habit of it, you will wake up in a good mood too.

4. Reflect on Your Growth and Plans

Remind yourself of how curious you are. Seeing that, regularly develop your skills by reading, watching inspiring content, and listening to podcasts. Build your knowledge and increase self-awareness. Work to understand and get to know yourself better and what are your goals in life.

Embrace the growth mindset and invest in therapy to help you manage and self-regulate your emotions. Furthermore, make plans for your near and distant future and pursue it fiercely, like you’re on a mission!

5. Be Your Own Best Friend

Surround yourself with positivity by changing how you talk to yourself and be your own best friend. We all have internal dialogues, and some of them can be really nasty and limiting. Work on positive self-talk and affirmations and know your worth as a woman by repeating positive statements often.  Read more about 18 signs that you are your best friend.

Validate yourself from within by saying to yourself “I am here for you”, “I love you”, “You are strong and amazing”, “Everything you need to succeed is already within you” and so on. Create sentences that resonate with you and customise them based on your own needs and challenges.

Learn how to set your boundaries and stop people pleasing.

Remember that self-love and self-appreciation are ongoing processes. It’s okay to have moments of self-doubt, but with practice and dedication, you can strengthen your sense of self-worth and truly appreciate your value. Be patient with yourself and celebrate every step forward in your journey toward self-love.

Conclusion

To know your worth as a woman, we need to recognise and embrace that your worth is a powerful tool in self-discovery and self-acceptance. Society often imposes rigid standards that can make us question our value, particularly in the context of appearance and external validation. However, it’s essential to understand that your true worth comes from within, and it’s something unique and invaluable.

Moreover, embracing your value involves appreciating your body, refraining from damaging comparisons, practising self-compassion, reflecting on your growth and aspirations, and adopting a positive internal dialogue. This journey of self-love and self-appreciation is ongoing, and it’s perfectly normal to have moments of self-doubt. However, with dedication and patience, you can build a strong foundation of self-worth that allows you to live a fulfilling and empowered life. Celebrate every step forward in this transformative journey, for you truly deserve the absolute best.

Your inherent worth isn’t determined by age, appearance, or external opinions. As a matter of fact, you possess a wealth of qualities, skills, and abilities that make you special. Your capacity to create, nurture, and bring joy to those around you is immeasurable. To sum up, by acknowledging and believing in this intrinsic worth, you create a constant source of self-validation that empowers you to feel good about yourself, irrespective of external influences.

Will you practise with the tools we discussed in this post?

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