We often look for a partner to finally make us happy. It doesn’t just seem like a bad idea – it truly is one. Putting so much pressure on the other person is so ingrained in society that we don’t question it anymore. However, as a person who once subscribed to this belief and saw it at work, I can affirm that it’s just a waste of our precious time. Let’s explore why self love is important in a relationship. ...
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What is your best friend like? Supportive? Fun? Always there for you? Understanding? I bet all of these qualities and more. You’d never judge and put her down when she’s feeling low. Now, imagine how incredible it would be to extend the same compassion to yourself! Here are some examples and signs you’re your own best friend. Benefits of Being Your Own Best Friend Working in your own interest reaps tremendous awards. It’s how you nurture self love. But what is self love? To me it’s a verb. It’s a series of actions that enhance well-being, foster inner calm and increase my self-perceived value. It involves creating a sense of being pampered and cared for. It’s me safeguarding my boundaries, and being...
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We live in a society that rewards deeply self-centred, outgoing, extraverted, result-driven attributes. Besides, we are reproached for exhibiting a touch more self-care and setting our boundaries as if such conduct is a bad thing. However, I argue that self-love is your personal pathway to a peaceful and happy life, so let’s dive into the topic of how self love changes your life. What is Self Love? It took me years to develop good self love, but now I consider it one of the most important things I’ve ever done for myself. I hope I can show how self love changes your life and inspire you to feel similarly about yourself, too, because I know how it helps and empowers me...
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Dating can be a challenging and emotionally taxing process. No matter how far you’ve progressed in a relationship, rejection hurts. What if a guy isn’t interested in you? Can you get him back? Let’s dive into how to know if a guy likes you and what to do if he doesn’t. Men Are Not Foolish We ladies often assume that men are clueless about many things, and we feel the need to make them realise what they might be missing and what’s good for them. While I generally agree that we should gently show to a man what he could potentially gain from being with us and pursuing us, it’s important to remember men are not foolish and they know exactly...
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Feeling alone is dreadful. I’ve been there. Throughout my life, I have felt like I am alone with everything and have to have everything together without showing any weakness. I also felt lonelier in a relationship than when it ended. How did I fix it? Let’s explore how to not feel alone ever again. Finding the Root Cause When I encounter a problem or emotions that feel uncomfortable, instead of trying to eliminate them, I prefer to look deeper. Emotions are merely symptoms of something happening beneath the surface, and it’s the same with loneliness. We first need to identify the root cause and then address it, nipping it in the bud. So, why do we feel lonely? There was a period in...
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We project our value to the world. We are all valuable in our own way. Society often expects specific standards, leading to feelings of inadequacy if we don’t conform to a certain norm. It can be very harmful unless we realise that our value comes from within, and it’s up to us to project it to the world. In this blog post, we’ll learn how to appreciate our inherent value and how to know your worth as a woman. Your value is inherent For us women, much of our confidence and self-worth is often tied to our appearance. A lot. Whether we like it or not, society places a heavy emphasis on youth and beauty as measures of our value, and we are...
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Are you his dream girl? You might just be. But before we can get there, we need to work on something even more important. And it has to do with the relationship with yourself. Because you are the most important person in your life. Let’s explore what it means and how to become your own dream girl. Be the change you want to see We place a significant emphasis on the desire to be someone's dream girl. Often, we seek this acceptance, validation, and the source of deep, unconditional love from our current or potential partners. Certainly, this is entirely normal, as humans are inherently wired to connect with others; it's a fundamental need. I’d like us to step away from this mindset...
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We are our harshest critics. How often have you been so tough on yourself that you quit something, gave up midway or not even started all due to your own intrusive thoughts? Let’s explore how to avoid that with these steps to radical acceptance and high levels of resilience. Radical acceptance is a concept from dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) that involves fully and completely acknowledging reality without resistance and judgement, or attempts to change it. It means embracing things as they are, even if they are difficult or painful, in order to reduce suffering and improve emotional well-being. Yeah, so? What does it mean? Examples of radical acceptance By fully embracing what life throws at us, we remove the emotional burden that could potentially...
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Safety instructions on the plane always state that you should secure your own oxygen mask before helping others. Even children! The welfare of those around you relies on your well-being also. This is why you must prioritise taking care of yourself first before you can assist others the best you can. Let’s explore how to be your own best friend. Self-love is a verb We live in a society that rewards deeply self-centred, outgoing, extraverted, result-driven attributes. Nevertheless, we are reproached for exhibiting a touch more self-care and setting our boundaries as if such conduct is a bad thing. I’m sure we all feel a sense of guilt (even if only slightly) when declining a friend or family member's request in favour of...
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