How to positive self-talk for a successful life

Aug 23. 2023

How to positive self-talk for a happier life, self acceptance, your best friend

The world throws enough judgement and tests your way, so why add more negativity to the mix? Be your own best friend and practise positive self-talk to find more calm, boost your self-confidence and find happiness. It is also a way to solve most of your problems. I know it’s a bold statement, but let’s dig in and see why.

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What was first?

Positive dialogue with yourself creates increased self love and one cannot fully exist without the other one.

Did you become happier and more confident as you started talking to yourself positively, or did your mindset change first, followed by increased happiness? According to science it’s the latter.

From your mind’s perspective, what you don’t think about might as well not exist.

Our brain loves to jog our memory about the things we do regularly. What we engage in frequently is ingrained in our brain through the development of many neural connections established over time.

I realised this when I had a bit of a challenging time at work. The release of the project we were working on was coming and it got really intense and draining. In the evenings, I often found myself exhausted, passing the time with smartphone games while watching TV. I did it so frequently that my mind would remind me about it during the day because it became such a common activity. My brain assumed it was important and dropped hints multiple times a day.

Now, the exciting part is that we can also train our brains to remind us about the good stuff, too. Whether it’s meditation, connecting with our thoughts and emotions, exercising, or choosing a salad for dinner, you can use this reminder system to enhance your life.

When we lack confidence

When we’re uncertain about something, our body language and the way we express ourselves often reflect a lack of confidence. Read more about how to become a more confident woman.

Uncertain people tend to use phrases such as:

I’ll try

I hope

I wish

Maybe/perhaps

I might try

I should/could/would

If everything goes well

What self-assured people say

Replace words that show weakness with words that show self-confidence. Use these phrases instead to give yourself more assurance:

I will

I can

Absolutely

Sure

Definitely

of course

Obviously

Certainly

No problem

It’s perfectly fine if we don’t always manage to accomplish things. We can always ask for help! Part of self-awareness is recognising when it’s time to seek assistance. And our ego should be quieted by the fact that we still achieved something.

Use the present tense rather than the future tense, and focus on positive affirmations like ‘I am consistent’ instead of ‘I don’t quit.’ Phrase it as if it’s already your reality. Repeat these affirmations until your subconscious mind accepts them as truths.

Tell yourself often that you can do it. That you will beat all challenges that come your way. That you are resilient. You can even set reminders on your phone for that!

Positive self-talk for single women

While you’re single, you have the opportunity to improve your life and work on your self-awareness. This is exactly what I aim to assist you with here on this blog ?

Let’s continue to empower ourselves and work on self-improvement within the context of romantic relationships.

To achieve this, we must shift our perception and work on truly believing we are worthy of a healthy relationship with the man who sees as for what we are – the price. To solidify this belief in our minds, consider repeating the following affirmation (or journaling a similar sentiment):

I am worthy of love and secure attachment.
By understanding my attachment style and working on myself, I can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
I am capable of building strong connections based on trust, communication, and compatibility.
My emotional well-being is nurtured and I make choices that align with my need for secure and loving relationships.
I abandon the position of fear and approach everything with love, not fear.

Moreover, this practice encourages us to recognise our intrinsic worth and take proactive measures to enrich our love lives.

Conclusion

The power of positive self-talk is a remarkable tool that can transform the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us. It’s not about denying the challenges or setbacks in life; instead, it’s about choosing to focus on the positives and the solutions. By embracing positive self-talk, we open the door to more calmness, increased self-confidence, and ultimately, greater happiness.

The journey begins with recognising that our mindset can shape our reality. Scientifically, it’s evident that a shift in mindset often precedes increased happiness and confidence. The key is understanding that what we consistently think about becomes deeply ingrained in our minds, influencing our actions and reactions.

So, let’s remember that the world throws enough challenges our way. By being our own best friend and practising positive self-talk, we can find strength within ourselves to navigate life’s twists and turns with grace, seeing them not as unbeatable obstacles but as minor bumps on the road to our own success and happiness.

Ready to start your journey towards a more positive and confident you?

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Meditations from this blog – Positive Affirmations

I AM Morning Affirmations for Women

Affirmations for Self-Love from Women’s Meditation Network