7 Ways How to Increase Feminine Energy While Single

Jan 11. 2024

Considering polarity, I find it quite easy to tap into my feminine energy in a relationship with a man. As he embodies the masculine force, it naturally makes me feel more feminine. However, when I’m single, I miss being the most feminine person in the room and seek other ways to bring more softness into my life. Here are my tips on how you can do the same, with these 7 ways how to increase feminine energy while single.

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Why Feminine Energy is Important

We live in a world where masculine traits and the ‘doing’ energy are dominant and praised, while the feminine qualities are viewed as weak, lazy, and unambitious. This saddens me because connecting with your divine feminine essence as a woman is truly your superpower.

It’s not a sign of weakness to pursue peace, mindfulness, and softness in a world that constantly emphasises productivity and a fast pace. Nor is it weak to prioritise relaxation in daily life when the world often feels like a constant survival mode.

I don’t know about you but while my 20s were filled with independence and freedom, my 30s have led me to seek more peace and stability – I’m simply very, very tired but I also feel more free than ever. My 20s were a time of survival mode, coping with unhealed childhood traumas, and navigating the newfound world of adulthood the best I could. And I’m thankful for my masculine energy during that time as it literally made me who I am today.

Now, I crave a calm life and someone to provide protection. Here you can read how to embrace feminine energy as a former tomboy.

I Know You Can Do it All

We’re capable women. We can juggle ten things at once and as the multitaskers we are, we can effortlessly shift our focus from task to another. However, just because we handle it all doesn’t mean we have to do everything alone.

In my 20s, I was insecure and wanted everyone to see I can manage things independently. It felt strange to ask for help, not only because I didn’t know how without feeling rejected, but also because I saw it as admitting defeat.

I felt the need to prove to myself and others that I could do it all. I aspired to be able to say that I’m a self-made success story.

Later in life, I realised this stemmed from my insecurities. I understood that while I could handle everything on my own, perhaps I don’t have to. It’s okay to ask for help and receive it with gratitude instead of self-judgement. I now have the confidence to drop the need to prove to others that I can do it all. I know I can, the rest is history.

And I know you can too. If you feel the internal urge to showcase your capabilities, intelligence, and brilliance, that’s okay. Just ask yourself, who do you do it for?

Confidence is Your Shield

To boost your self-perceived worth and self confidence, I cannot stress enough how important positive self-talk is! It will transform your self-perception and enhance your confidence.

You see, the only person who truly needs convincing about your worth is you.

Since you cannot control others but yourself, it’s important to recognise that we project our self-perceived value to the world. Our energy enters the room way before we do, even when dressed in the finest designer clothes.

We radiate our energy, expressing both confidence as well as insecurities. You can improve that with the power of positive affirmations as you sleep.

The easiest way to increase your worth in your own eyes is to engage in something you excel at every day – something you’re genuinely good at. When you witness your own success, your value in your eyes naturally rises.

Another important aspect is monitoring your self-talk and correcting any negative thoughts as they arise. Additionally, don’t forget about self-compassion. When you feel sad or angry, be your own understanding best friend, tap your shoulder and say as a good friend would: “That’s okay”, “I’m here for you”, “I love you”, “You’re doing great”. We all make mistakes at times, and nobody is perfect.

How to Increase Your Feminine Energy While Single

To me, a former tomboy with three decades in her survival mode, discovering feminine energy was a lifesaver. I was searching for a way to be less tired and more content with life, and the divine feminine energy was one of the biggest factors that changed my life. Through finding my authenticity and mindfulness the feminine essence comes with.

I developed new habits to remember how to increase my feminine energy while single because, although I naturally feel more feminine with my partner, it seems to be more of a challenge when I don’t have such a masculine figure in my everyday life. Read here if your partner is in his feminine energy era.

Let’s dive into my ways how to increase feminine energy while single:

Absorb the Masculine Energy in Everyday Situations

Accept the masculine energy from men at work, those who hold the door for you, or simply act chivalrous towards you. This is a beautiful act of kindness and a great way to feel more feminine while letting men around you feel more like a man too. In a world where opening doors or helping with baggage on a train is seen as sexist (sic!), be the breath of fresh air and allow people around to do something nice for you, without the constant need to prove you can do it alone. Feminine energy is all about surrendering and receiving with gratitude.

In a world of masculine women who scream “I don’t need a man” every chance they get, be that confident one whose strength is to say “But I do”. Because you know you can do these things yourself, but maybe you don’t always have to.

Accept Help from Others

Remember, just because you can juggle a million things at the same time, it doesn’t mean you have to. You don’t have to do everything by yourself. Instead of being fixed on independence, realise that we are all interdependent. The entire society is based on exchange of services. We can ask for help, and it’s not admitting weakness. When others ask you for help, do you judge them for it? No! And yet, we judge ourselves. Accept help when it’s proposed to you, and your life will become lighter and more peaceful, and you – more relaxed.

Indulge in Self-Care and Introduce a Self-Maintenance Block

Feminine energy is all about softness and inner peace. Allow yourself to spend some time during your week to take care of your body, hair, and spoil yourself once in a while with a bubble bath or a face mask. Looking good and feeling good go hand in hand. So schedule some kind of self-maintenance block for yourself on the weekend and engage in activities like ‘everything shower™’, scrubbing, moisturising, applying hair mask for your hair, doing your nails or whatever you want and need to do to feel good in your skin. Don’t forget about proper hydration and an appropriate sleep schedule, including sleep hygiene.

Surround Yourself with Beauty

Arrange your living space so that it’s pleasant to look at and hang out in. Buy yourself some flowers once in a while and populate your house with house plants (if you’re not afraid to kill them). We often leave special things for special occasions, like jewellery, perfumes, and clothes. But I say, to hell with special occasions. Every day can be special and I spoil myself by using these fancy things on a daily basis, if I feel like it. Who said I can’t? 🙂

Schedule More Time to Relax

I learned the hard way that if I don’t schedule time to relax, my body will do it for me. Feminine energy is big on creating your own peace and feeling good. Make time to do nothing, meditate, paint, cook, draw, or do whatever it is that relaxes you and makes you feel good. I am of the opinion that women need more rest than men, and yet in this world driven by success and money, we often find ourselves competing with men in all domains of life. It’s exhausting, and it was never meant for us women to compete with men so much. Men are driven by competition, women not so much. So try to recognise when your batteries are getting empty to recharge and feel relaxed again without the guilt that you’re not being productive.

Hang Out with Feminine Energy Women

The more I tried to tap into my divine feminine, the more I started to appreciate feminine women I encountered in my life. The ease they move with, the confidence in their own bodies, and the energy that radiates from them are something so magnetic to me. I try to absorb this energy from them and just admire how graciously they move and speak.

I started attending meetups with women where it’s a pleasure to just hear them speak and observe and catch what I’d like to embody as well. It’s a true inspiration. Watching YouTube videos by feminine women or even listening to their podcasts is healing to me as well. I love slow-paced content as a contrast to fast speaking men where you have to focus with every fibre of your body to understand their message. I appreciate both but can truly love just one.

Find a Feminine Hobby

We all need a good hobby to unwind and do something we excel in sometimes to feel good about ourselves. Or even if it’s not something we’re particularly good at, but every minute spent doing that fills us with joy and contentment. Find something you’ll love doing that will be creative and relaxing for you or will allow you to appreciate your surroundings more, like photography, walking, writing (like a blog, a book, or a journal). Gardening is a practical hobby that brings you crops and the true sense of fulfilment, and the contact with nature and soil is nearly healing. Cooking will nourish you and will bring you new textures and sensations to enjoy, which is also an essence of feminine energy – feeling and experiencing sensations.

Click here to read about solo date ideas to inspire yourself.

Conclusion

We explored simple ways how to increase feminine energy while single. Embracing and enhancing your feminine energy while single is a journey of self-discovery and self-care. Recognising the importance of feminine energy in a world often dominated by masculine traits is empowering. It’s a reminder that prioritising peace, mindfulness, and self-compassion is not a sign of weakness but a celebration of your unique superpower.

By absorbing positive energy from everyday situations, accepting help, indulging in self-care, surrounding yourself with beauty, and connecting with feminine energy women, you can cultivate a more relaxed and fulfilling life. Remember, it’s okay to schedule time for relaxation and engage in feminine hobbies that bring you joy and contentment. Ultimately, finding a balance between independence and interdependence allows you to tap into your divine feminine essence, creating a path to greater self-worth, confidence, and inner peace. Embrace the journey, and may your feminine energy continue to flourish.

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