7 Tips on How to Set Your Standards High

Apr 22. 2024

We project our self-perceived value to the world. Read that again! We also teach others how to love us and how to treat us by how we treat and love ourselves. If we treat ourselves like royalty, we’ll never have low standards. So let’s delve into the tips on how to set your standards high.

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We Attract What We Are

As much as I hate to say this (not really), we don’t always get what we want in life. We only attract what we already are and project that to the world. We receive exactly what we are ready for and assume we will receive from others and this world. This results in attracting people with similar vibrations, level of healing, and personal development as ourselves.

That’s why I focus on this blog on self-love and self-development. You cannot change or control other people, but you can change yourself and how you react to what’s happening in your life. And that is very powerful when you truly understand it.
I want you to be so confident and loving towards yourself that you stop giving your time and attention to the wrong people. The standards you desire, the kind of people you wish to attract – it’s all within your reach if you believe it is, according to the Law of Assumption.

The Princess Treatment You Deserve

Think about a time when someone did something nice for you. Did you sit back and enjoy it, receiving and showing your appreciation? Or did you feel uneasy that someone was doing something for you and you needed to find a way to give back?

If you’re in the second group, we need to work on overcoming this. I used to feel that way too, cringing at the thought of someone serving me like that. Why? Because I didn’t feel worthy. I was a people pleaser. No one had ever done anything like this for me before, so I wasn’t used to it. But girl, you and I deserve to be spoiled and treated like princesses, even if our parents didn’t teach us that. This is our freaking birthright!

This is also something I need men to understand: women can now manage most things themselves (which doesn’t mean you’re off the hook!) – what she needs from you is to be spoiled and treated like a queen. She needs you to make her feel special! If you can’t do this in my life, you won’t even be a part of it. Full stop.

I want you to treat yourself so well, give yourself that princess treatment, and expect you’ll get the same from others, especially men who want you in their lives. When you prioritise self-care and create your own peace, anyone who disturbs it or doesn’t respect it should turn you off completely.

Are You Afraid of Being Alone?

Many of us fear being single for too long, and I don’t entirely understand why. Personally, I spent the majority of my life single. I never settled for someone just to be in a relationship, and I always enjoyed my own company.

It’s not surprising because many people are afraid of being alone with their thoughts. This fear might also be linked to a scarcity mindset, where people perceive limited resources, leading to feelings of lack, fear, and a focus on what is missing rather than what is available.

But this world is abundant, and there’s plenty for everyone. Have courage to face and get to know yourself. Be single for as long as you need to understand yourself, your desires and your preferences. Who are you? Date yourself and treat yourself like the most important person in your life – because you are.

The Biggest Blockers

Some of my friends think that my standards are too high. They say this because they themselves settled for less and believe that’s the way to go. They think life is just about making trade-offs. You get some, you lose some.

I disagree. I believe I create my own reality. I’m not afraid to be alone for as long as necessary. And am I really ever truly alone? When I’m by myself, I don’t really feel lonely. Plus, I have friends, colleagues and family, so how can I be considered alone?

But we need to remember that my married friends won’t marry a rich man and I still can – she said half-jokingly.

People who are afraid to demand more are stuck in a scarcity mindset. They believe they must lower their value because otherwise, there’ll be no takers. It’s insecurity and a lack of self-love in action. Imagine walking into an expensive designer shop and telling the saleswoman that their products are too costly and they should settle for less—what do you think her reaction would be?

Trust your instincts when it comes to setting high standards for yourself. Your emotions are the immediate feedback system. If something feels good – you’re on the right path. If it feels bad – run.

Set Your Standards High

Be authentic with yourself and don’t accept anything that feels uncomfortable. It’s about understanding what feels right to you and sticking to it. Everyone will have different standards and non-negotiables, but it’s up to you to define yours based on how you feel. Take time for self-reflection to gain this self-awareness.

Become a high-value woman who never settles for less than she deserves because the only person she can no longer afford to disappoint is herself.

1. Love Yourself

Lack of self-love lies at the root of everything you allow others to do to you and in your life, impacting how to set your standards high. We teach others how to treat and love us by how we treat and love ourselves. Start by reflecting on your boundaries and setting them for good. Next, observe your self-talk – is it positive or negative? Avoid negative jokes about yourself because your subconscious listens 24/7 and can’t tell the difference between a joke and truth. So, affirm yourself positively affirmations. Listen to positive affirmations during the day and at night. You can find them on my YouTube channel.

2. Give Yourself Princess Treatment

Stop complaining that you don’t have time for yourself; schedule it in your agenda like you do with other important things in your life. Create a morning routine you love. When you feel stuck or sad, ask yourself: what can I do now to make myself feel better? And then do it. Ask yourself that every day. Treat yourself so well that anyone who doesn’t treat you that way is immediately categorised as “bare minimum effort,” and we know that’s not what we’re aiming for. So, thank you – next.

3. Write a List of Non-Negotiables

A big of how to set your standards high is having a list of non-negotiables. Create a list of non-negotiables and have a specific goal in mind when dating for real. When you meet men, remember your goals and decide if this person can and wants to get you closer to your goal. It’s not selfish; it’s having an abundance mindset and not settling for anything less than you want from life. This will help you see things clearly and not emotionally. We women in dating sometimes attach too quickly and base our actions and emotions on what WE feel. Instead, be strategic and only mirror the man’s behaviour, so that you don’t over-invest.

4. Adopt an Abundance Mindset

With an abundance mindset, you see opportunity everywhere. You know you have options and always assume the best will happen. If a man doesn’t meet your non-negotiables, don’t stay with him hoping he’ll change. Train your brain to recognize this early and walk away. The longer you entertain what’s not right for you, the longer you delay finding what is.

5. Improve Yourself Daily

Define what you want from life and pursue it consistently, every day. Self-development and learning new things will never harm you but can broaden your horizons. Even 30 minutes a day adds up to over 180 hours a year! That’s significant progress. Learn about yourself, your emotions, and triggers, and consciously improve with new knowledge. Read books, listen to podcasts, and find what excites and motivates you, as this will guide your next steps in life. Progress is never too late, and no amount of progress is too little. Keep moving forward and show up for yourself every day.

6. Be Open and Receptive

Don’t fear getting hurt again; instead, learn to manage and regulate your emotions in a healthy way. Accept things as they are without closing yourself off from the world. Open your heart to love and be receptive to masculine energy in men. Allow them to help you and do things for you. This shows confidence and taps into your divine feminine energy through receiving. It’s okay to take time to heal and not date until you’re ready. But don’t delay out of fear of being hurt. You are strong enough.

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7. Tap into Your Divine Feminine

A high-value woman has embraced her divine feminine energy and enjoys being in that state. It’s liberating to rediscover this side of yourself after years in a masculine world. Relax and find peace in your life because creativity flourishes in a peaceful mind. When you’re creative, the sky is merely a starting point.

Conclusion

We explore tips on how to set your standards high. In setting high standards for yourself, you’re not just attracting the right people into your life; you’re honouring your own worth and living authentically. By treating yourself with the respect you deserve, you naturally elevate your expectations.

Trust your instincts and emotions—they are your immediate feedback system guiding you towards fulfilment. Embrace an abundance mindset and believe you deserve nothing less than what aligns with your true desires.

Stay committed to self-awareness, maintaining boundaries, and fostering self-respect. Every step forward brings you closer to your highest potential. Embrace your divine feminine energy, cultivate inner peace, and let your creativity soar beyond limits—because you are meant for greatness.

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