Many women find themselves in a dilemma about their current relationship or a situationship – should I stay or should I go? Is it worth fighting for, or is it going nowhere? It’s a tough challenge to face. Let’s go through tips on how to know when it’s time to walk away from a man.
Man’s Emotions Towards Her Reflect in Her Peace
What do I mean by that? How a man feels about you will be reflected in how he treats you and the effort he puts into being with you. If a man isn’t very interested, he will make little effort. Your man, your future husband, will leave no doubt in your mind. He will give you no mixed signals – you’ll know he’s interested with 100% certainty. A good man may not be there all the time but consistently.
A woman in a loving relationship is peaceful, soft, and unbothered. She’s so relaxed because she doesn’t need to have her guard up – her man takes care of her, benefiting from her peaceful demeanour. But make no mistake – this is his doing. A man who pours into a woman and takes care of her gives her peace. A man who takes from a woman causes her anxiety.
If you’re a healed woman – and by that I mean that you’ve engaged in self-reflection, therapy, or worked on your inner healing for years (and continue to do so) – and yet you feel anxiety in a relationship, it’s a sign he’s not the right person for you.
A securely attached person can become anxious in a relationship with someone who isn’t right for them. It’s your intuition warning you to run. It’s your sign for when it’s time to walk away from a man.
The Pitfalls of Walking Away Too Easily
Walking away isn’t always the healthiest choice. For instance, in my past, I was always the one to walk away with a broken heart, even if I loved a man. It was difficult but it was easier than staying.
A person who will fight hard to keep the relationship together may also be the person who will walk away and go no contact. This is not acting from a healed place but a fearful place.
Sometimes, fear of abandonment and an anxious attachment style can lead a person to leave a relationship before they face being broken up with. It’s a form of control, thinking, “at least I know when it’s going to happen, and won’t be caught off guard.”
Others may do it as a manipulation tactic to test if their partner will fight for them.
Needless to say, these reasons aren’t sufficient. With time, I hope that we will all learn to recognise these feelings and understand when it’s happening through continuous self-reflection.
The Power of Walking Away for Men
Men learn through action, not just words. Often, a woman may nag, attempt open communication, and try to make changes in a relationship. She tries, but eventually, she gives up. When the nagging stops, she’s surrendered. That’s when you know you’ve just lost a good woman.
When a woman walks away, whether from a routine argument or from the relationship itself, a man starts to pay attention. As they say, “You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.” And it may not be a flattering comparison, but it’s true: men react to your actions much like dogs react to training, and you can shape their behaviour through your own. Read more about things that benefit women that men actually like.
Become a woman who no longer fears disappointing others, because the only person she refuses to let down is herself. When she walks away to be true to herself, it screams high standards, established boundaries, and shows she no longer settles for the crumbs she was getting, knowing she deserves much more. She trusts her path and isn’t afraid to start over, believing that better things lie ahead and she refuses to accept less.
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If this doesn’t scream power, I don’t know what does. And this is the type of walking away we’ll be discussing in this post.
When It’s Time to Walk Away From a Man
I’m not suggesting anyone should walk away from a relationship without first trying to introduce some changes in your own behaviour. However, a woman always knows when to walk away. Sometimes, even small changes we make ourselves can significantly improve things! Let’s remember that while we can’t change others, we can change ourselves and control how we react to external triggers.
For instance, if a lack of respect is a problem in the relationship, gradually setting boundaries could help address it. If there’s an imbalance between masculine and feminine energies in the relationship, your progressive shift towards a more feminine energy role could restore the right polarity and make space for the man to step into a more masculine energy role. Because while we cannot change others, each of our actions and behaviour has a reaction in the other person.
You can work on this independently or opt for private coaching with me if you’d like assistance. Now, let’s discuss the situations when it’s time to walk away from a man.
1. When He Activates Your Anxiety
Our intuition will whisper to us until it’s time to scream. Your anxiety can be caused by childhood traumas and an anxious attachment style, but it could also be your intuition screaming at you. Were you always this anxious? Or is this person triggering something in you that makes you feel uneasy? Learn to discern between your anxiety and intuition because it’s a very important skill that will serve you all your life.
Meditate and reflect to understand your emotions because your higher self is trying to tell you something – just listen. And if you conclude that this person activates it in you, try to focus less on him and more on you. Anxiety is energy depletion and you should bring it back to you by thinking of what’s best for you and prioritising yourself.
2. When Your Boundaries Are Being Pushed
For men, words are just words. But even if you expressed your boundaries and he knows well about them but pushes them and tests you anyway, that’s a cheeky move. He might just be testing you to see how much you bend and if you break but it’s disrespectful nonetheless. A man who loves you would never do that to you. Set your boundaries and act on their violation from day one of every relationship. A woman determines the tone and speed of a relationship with her boundaries. It’s up to you to set and keep them.
Before you walk away for good, start to walk away for a couple of minutes or a day when you witness a behaviour you don’t like. Men respond to actions, not words. Be consistent and do it for weeks and months. It’s difficult to maintain your composure but it will pay off. If this doesn’t work, consider walking away for good, because there are men out there who would love to spoil and respect you.
3. When He Doesn’t Work Towards Your Dream Life With You / Doesn’t Give You the Life You Want
Being with someone who doesn’t support your dreams or even is a heavy anchor preventing you from starting and achieving them is, to put it frankly, a waste of your precious time. If your man gives you reasons why you shouldn’t level up, he’s projecting his own insecurities on you. He’s scared that if you level up, he will stay where he is and you’ll leave him. Imagine life as a river, always moving forward. Those who don’t advance are like rocks on the riverbank, watching as the current carries others away, leaving them stranded in stillness. And if you’re looking for a provider man who will want to give you what you want, the answer is obvious here as well.
Sometimes people grow together but sometimes they grow apart. A good, masculine energy man will do a lot to improve the life of the woman he loves and she will be his inspiration to aim higher. You deserve to be with someone who asks you about your dreams and helps you get there and works himself towards achieving these goals. Don’t let your insecurities tell you otherwise!
4. When He Lacks Authentic Communication and Stonewalls
Some people don’t communicate at all, while some do but won’t tell you the authentic truth. Oftentimes, I would try to initiate dialogue and have a serious conversation but when all I hear is stonewalling and inability to have an emotional talk, this is when I check out. Because a lot can be done through communicating but if a person is not willing to, it’s time to walk away.
Stonewalling in a relationship refers to when one person refuses to engage or communicate, shutting down emotionally and physically. For instance, if during an argument, one partner remains silent, avoids eye contact, and refuses to respond to the other’s attempts to discuss the issue, it can be considered stonewalling.
5. When He Keeps You in Your Survival Mode
Weak men will create masculine women who operate in their survival mode. If your man doesn’t allow space and time for you to relax and embrace softer life, it’s time to find someone who will. If your attempts to shift to the right masculine/feminine energy polarity doesn’t work because your man sits comfortably in his feminine energy but you want more than that, it might be the signal to walk away.
You deserve to get that princess treatment. Give it to yourself first to know how it feels and never allow anybody into your space who doesn’t maintain it.
6. When He Disrespects You in Public and in Private
This is an obvious sign for when it’s time to walk away from a man and yet I have friends who stay in relationships like that. Girl, if with his remarks he makes you feel small, ugly and unappreciated, what are you doing there with him? Some men are so insecure that they will put you down so that they can finally feel like they’re with their match. You deserve better. Obviously, this includes a man who talks to you in a disrespectful way in front of others, openly flirts with other women or cheated on you. No second chances in such situations.
Set your boundaries and adopt an abundance mindset. No, it’s not the last man who will want to be with you. But it’s the last man who disrespected you.
7. When There’s No Ring for Years
If you were clear about your future plans of becoming a wife and/or starting a family and yet he’s not stepping in to claim you, he might not see you as a wife material. Men often are in a situationship with a placeholder woman until he finds his dream girl. If you feel this is the case and you’ve communicated your desire to be married and yet no ring follows, walking away is the only way to get what you want from life.
We are women. Our time is precious. Your attention is the most expensive asset you possess. Don’t let it waste on someone who doesn’t appreciate it. Sometimes a man needs to lose a woman to understand how important she was to him. But I wouldn’t encourage you to walk away only to see him come back. Walk away because that’s the right thing to do for you.
8. When You’re With Him for His Potential
Ask yourself this question: do I love him for who he is right now or do I love the potential person he could have become if he levelled up? If he never changed, would I be okay with it?
Only you can answer these questions. But let me tell you this: your energy is too expensive to spend it on someone who could be more but doesn’t want to. Are you in love with his current version or some imaginary potential version that will never come to be?
9. When He’s Taking You for Granted
A man who takes you for granted will disrespect you and treat you like no matter what he does, you’ll be there anyway. He may consistently prioritise his own needs over yours, showing little appreciation for your efforts or contributions, and neglecting to make an effort to spend quality time or maintain the connection between you both.
Try gradually being a challenge and be more mysterious and see if he changes his approach towards you. Focus on yourself, engage in hobbies or side hustle, go out with friends more. Live your life and see if he changes. If he doesn’t change his levels of interests, it’s your cue because this man may not want you after all.
Conclusion
Navigating the decision to walk away from a relationship can be daunting, yet essential for your emotional well-being. By recognizing the signs outlined here, you empower yourself to make choices that honour your worth and happiness.
When we consider when it’s time to walk away from a man, it’s not about hastily abandoning relationships at the first sign of trouble, but rather about honouring your boundaries and prioritising your own growth and fulfilment. Trust your intuition, communicate your needs, and be willing to take action when necessary.
Ultimately, walking away can be a powerful act of self-love and empowerment, leading you towards relationships that truly nourish and uplift you. Trust in your journey and know that you deserve nothing less than the love and respect you desire.
Based on your experience, what were the reasons for you to walk away?
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