In our singlehood, it’s time to spoil ourselves rotten. I want you to treat yourself so well that nobody who isn’t maintaining it won’t get access to you from now on. Let’s explore solo dates ideas and how to date yourself!
The Reflection of Your Healing and Inner Work
Welcome to the last months of your singlehood, before your future husband claims you for good! You will look into this period with such nostalgia and joy for how you spent this time. You engaged in self-development like never before.
Your work on your inner healing and becoming your own best friend is impressive. The progress you’ve made on your emotional regulation is truly astounding and it’ll serve you all your life forward. The love you give yourself is the proof of your inner work and healing. You will never accept less than you deserve because you know how to set your boundaries and you know what you’re looking for thanks to your list of non-negotiables. The next step is to know how to date yourself.
What a fine job you’ve completed so far. Your intuition serves you on a daily basis because you’ve learned how to discern between your intuition speaking and the anxiety that would sometimes speak to you, but recently less and less.
Anything For You, Princess!
I want you to say to yourself “Anything for you princess”. And if certain things are out of your reach financially, don’t feel sad about it but tell yourself “This is not a priority right now, we’ll revisit it later”.
Treat yourself as a priority. Give yourself the best treatment by talking to yourself positively, taking care of your beauty and health, practising morning gratitude and meditation. Basically, what I would like for you to happen is that you develop this ick metre for people around you. Who doesn’t maintain this peace isn’t welcome.
By creating your own peace and princess treatment, you will be able to recognise when someone in your life isn’t maintaining the peace and doesn’t give you that best treatment you deserve. You won’t be afraid to set your boundaries even if it means people will leave your life – you’ve adopted an abundance mindset and you know that all you want is already on its way because the universe conspires in your favour.
Benefits of Dating Yourself
Single or not, taking care of yourself, prioritising yourself and focusing on yourself isn’t selfish – it’s a requirement for a woman who wants to be happy, relaxed, soft and sit comfortably in her feminine energy.
We women have been conditioned to give and give, depleting ourselves in the process. We live in a crazy world where women now work full-time, take care of the kids and husband and have been told this is what a girl boss does. That we can have it all. The world where the man is now a prize and women compete with each other for a man who will go 50/50 with them. Madness.
When you give to others all the time, you’re depleting the source – you. You’re the source. Stress and anxiety are the energy depletion and you need to get it back. By pouring the energy into yourself, you put yourself back in balance so that you can continue taking care of your kids, plants, pets and the elderly, and express the woman’s need to nurture others.
Your attention is your most valuable and expensive asset. When you focus your attention on something, it gets your energy. Energy flows where your focus goes.
When you focus on yourself and start dating yourself as a single woman or otherwise, here’s what you gain:
- Nurturing the relationships with yourself – the only person who will be with you for the rest of your life.
- Self-discovery – you can explore your interests, passions, and values without the influence of a partner.
- Discovering what truly brings you joy and fulfilment by trying new things.
- Boosting your self-confidence by learning to rely on yourself for validation and happiness, rather than seeking it from external sources.
- Freeing the time for personal growth and development by a sense of independence, especially when you’re in a relationship, helps to prevent burnout.
- Prioritising self-care and focusing on activities such as relaxation, pampering, and mindfulness, nurturing your mental, emotional, and physical health.
- You learn to set boundaries that protect your time, energy, and emotions, which can be invaluable when entering into future relationships.
- You start to radiate confidence and positivity
How to Date Yourself for Your Singlehood
Show yourself good time by going out with yourself only. Start dating yourself and act as if you’re married to yourself – it’s such a magnetic trait and teaches you so much about yourself. Have fun with it and never overthink it.
Some of these ideas are proper evening dates but some are daytime ideas of how you can get more from your life and inspire yourself to go towards your dream life, career and simply to meet more new people. Nonetheless, each will enrich your life in some way.
These solo date ideas offer opportunities for self-exploration, creativity, and enjoyment, allowing you to cultivate a deeper connection with yourself and enhance your overall well-being.
1. Dinner Date 🍽️
Try a new place or a new cuisine.
2. Cinema Date 📽️
Visit a local studio cinema. You can discover niche films being screened there, and the atmosphere is entirely different as well.
3. Museum or Art Gallery Date 🖼️
4. Cocktails Date 🍹
Get comfortable with being alone and practise being in public spaces, making eye contact with people without any specific agenda. This is especially beneficial if you tend to be shy.
5. Café with a Book 📖
Try a new place or a new cuisine.
6. Sit with Yourself 🙆♀️
Spend some time simply sitting and observing your thoughts and emotions as they come and go. Approach self-discovery with curiosity and without judgement. Explore who you are and what you want in life. Fall in love with the woman you are.
7. Take Yourself for a Hike 🚶♀️
Ensure that the place you choose is safe, and remember to bring a power bank in case you get lost and need to contact someone.
8. Explore Your City like a Tourist ℹ️
Set aside all preconceptions about this place and approach it with fresh curiosity and energy.
9. Spend an Evening Meditating and Manifesting Your Dream Life 💭
Indulge in daydreaming as if what you want is already happening, and immerse yourself in the emotions of experiencing that dream future.
10. Solo City Break Trip 🏙️
11. Start a New Class or a Creative Workshop 🎨
12. Take Yourself to a Concert 🎶
Find a concert in your area of your favourite type of music or dress up and go to filharmony.
13. Go to a Networking Event / Career Fair 🤝
Indulge in daydreaming as if what you want is already happening, and immerse yourself in the emotions of experiencing that dream future.
14. Write a Letter to Your Future Self and Your Future Husband 💌
Reflect on who you aspire to become in the future, and write a letter to this future self with appreciation and curiosity. Address your future self or your man in the present tense, as if those aspirations are already your reality. Be thorough in your details, and express how achieving those goals makes you feel.
15. Join a Meetup 👥
You can find a variety of interesting meetups to attend on Meetup.com. For instance, if you’ve been wanting to improve your public speaking skills, consider joining your local Toastmasters club.
16. Visit a Local Historical Site 🏛️
There are plenty of places around here to explore, just like you would if you were a tourist in this area!
17. Visit a Botanical Garden 🌵
18. Have a Solo Picnic 🥐
19. Take Yourself for a Walk 🚶♀️
Head to a park or nearby forest and immerse yourself in the calming energy of nature.
20. Pamper Yourself at a Spa 🧖
21. DIY Spa Day at Home 💅
22. Photography Expedition Walk 📷
23. Explore a Farmers’ Market 🥔
Find joy in buying fresh, local produce and explore what else you can find in such places. You may be surprised!
24. Journaling at a Café 📔
25. Stargazing or Cloud Gazing ☁️
26. Attend a Free Community Festival 🙌
27. Visit a Garden Centre 🎍
Maybe it’s time for a new house plant? Or five?
28. Go on a Scenic Drive 🏞️
29. Attend Yoga or Meditation Class 🧘
If you never meditated before, you can try some of my guided meditations on my YouTube channel.
30. Take Yourself Shopping 🛍️
If you can afford some new things, anything for you, princess! You deserve the things you need and money comes back anyway.
31. Take Yourself to a Beach or a Lake 🏖️
32. Go to Rooftop Bar at Night to Admire the City View 🌃
33. Go to a Vintage / Thrift Shop for a Gemhunt 👗
You can find some really unique pieces in such places that cost you a fraction of the original price. Fun!
34. Attend a Book Reading or Literary Event 📖
35. Take Yourself Dancing 💃
Make sure it’s a place where nobody will bother you with undesired behaviour.
36. Go to a Jazz Bar / Café 🎷
37. DIY Craft Night: crocheting, knitting, scrapbooking, decoupage 🧶
Find some cheap starting kits online and try something new at home.
38. Plan a Self-Reflection Retreat 🧘
Maybe there’s something organised in your area but if not, plan one for yourself. Engage in journaling, daydreaming, vision board creation and all things manifestation. Write down things you discover about yourself and what you want from life.
39. Go for an Outdoor Movie Night 🎞️
40. Create a Vision Board ✂️
As part of your manifestations, you can create a vision boards with your goals for the current year or the next few years.
41. Go to a Wine Tasting Event (or do it solo at home) 🍷
42. Take a Solo Bike Ride 🚲
43. Attend an Online Workshop or Seminar 💻
44. Explore a New Neighbourhood 🏙️
45. Take a Spontaneous Road Trip 🚗
46. Have an Outdoor Sketching Session ✏️
47. Take Yourself Out to Brunch 🥗
48. Host a Solo Movie Marathon 🎬
49. Practice Mindfulness in Nature 🌳
50. Go for a Swim 🏊♀️
Conclusion
You asked, how to date yourself. In the pursuit of self-love and personal growth, solo dates offer invaluable opportunities for self-discovery and nourishment. Through simple moments of solitude and exploration, we deepen our connection with ourselves, fostering inner strength and contentment.
Each solo date, whether it’s a leisurely walk in nature, an evening at the cinema, or a cosy night in, becomes a catalyst for self-reflection and rejuvenation. By prioritising self-care and embracing our own company, we cultivate a sense of empowerment and authenticity.
Let’s cherish these moments of self-discovery and embrace the beauty of our own presence. Through solo dates, we honour our worth and nurture our well-being, paving the way for a life filled with joy, fulfilment, and inner peace.
What are other ideas for solo dates do you enjoy?
Share you commitments in the comments below!
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