We live in a world where sharing is the norm. We broadcast our personal lives on social media, update our friends and colleagues on our plans, and seek validation from others at every step. But what if living a private life is actually the key to a more fulfilling and peaceful existence? In this post, we’ll explore why embracing a bit more privacy can improve your life, increase your self-discipline, and protect your energy.
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Why Private Life?
Today, I’d like to start a conversation about why leading a life of privacy has improved my life and might do the same for yours. Why do we feel like sharing so much in the first place? And why it’s time to reconsider becoming a bit more private person.
How many times have you heard from friends, or experienced it yourself, that after prematurely sharing some news or plans with friends or family, they injected doubt into the situation? Or perhaps the plan never came to fruition and was abandoned in its infancy? Even if you were enthusiastic and felt momentum at the start, after sharing, something went wrong and your motivation diminished. Or maybe you talked about your relationship, and from that point, things started to deteriorate?
Because of situations like these, I believe that a private life is a better life. I won’t even begin to discuss sharing every moment of your life on social media, where undesired third parties can see when you’re away, leaving your home and possessions at risk—that’s a topic for another video. Here, I’m talking about oversharing with friends and coworkers, revealing your plans before any progress is made to seek external validation or even to self-sabotage. Being an open book, talking to many friends about the same things to get different perspectives, rather than reflecting and gaining insights from within.
Why Do We Overshare?
The temptation to overshare is common, but understanding why we do it is essential to breaking the habit. One of the main reasons is the need for external validation. We crave praise for our ideas and plans, wanting others to see us as ambitious and successful. But relying on external approval means we’re handing over our power to feel good about ourselves. In reality, any positive feedback we receive only feels good because we choose to assign it meaning.
Oversharing can also stem from loneliness. By disclosing personal details, we hope to form deeper connections and strengthen relationships. However, this strategy can backfire, creating superficial bonds or leaving us feeling vulnerable. Sharing personal information with many people may make us seem desperate for companionship instead of fostering genuine, meaningful connections.
Another reason is self-sabotage. By revealing our big plans before taking any action, we might unconsciously seek out doubt from others. Hearing someone say our dream is unrealistic can justify our fears, allowing us to abandon our goals without taking risks.
The Benefits of Privacy
Now, let’s explore why keeping certain things private can be a powerful tool for personal growth.
Conserving Your Energy
When we constantly share our plans and ideas, we often find ourselves justifying or defending them. This can drain our mental and emotional energy—energy that could be better spent on executing those plans. By keeping things to yourself, you maintain your focus and motivation, increasing your chances of success.
Avoiding Negative Influence
Not everyone will share your enthusiasm, and some may project their doubts and insecurities onto you. Even well-meaning friends can unintentionally discourage you, making you question your plans. By keeping your goals private, you shield yourself from this negative influence, allowing you to act from a place of conviction rather than fear.
Training Self-Discipline
Keeping your life private requires discipline. Instead of seeking validation from others, you learn to rely on your inner voice. This process builds emotional independence and resilience. You’ll no longer need others’ approval to feel good about your decisions, and you’ll develop the confidence to pursue your goals on your own terms.
Protecting Your Motivation
Talking about your goals can create a false sense of accomplishment. When you share your plans, your brain can trick you into feeling like you’ve already made progress, which can reduce your drive to actually follow through. By keeping your goals private, you maintain the hunger and focus needed to achieve them.
Avoiding Jealousy and the “Evil Eye”
When you share your successes or plans, you may unintentionally trigger jealousy in others. Even people who care about you might struggle with feelings of envy, leading to subtle or overt discouragement. Keeping your achievements and goals private helps avoid this dynamic. Additionally, many cultures believe in the concept of the “evil eye,” where negative energy or ill will from others can impact your life. Whether you take it literally or metaphorically, keeping your dreams to yourself can serve as a protective measure.
Alternatives to Oversharing
Living a private life doesn’t mean bottling everything up. It’s about being selective with whom you share your thoughts and plans. Instead of telling everyone, choose one trusted friend to confide in or consider journaling your thoughts. Self-reflection is a powerful tool. When you take the time to sit with your emotions and ideas, you gain valuable insights without the noise of external opinions.
If you find yourself seeking validation, start practicing self-validation. Compliment yourself, recognize your own progress, and celebrate your wins privately. The more you trust and validate yourself, the less you’ll need approval from others. This shift allows you to maintain a sense of fulfilment that doesn’t rely on external praise.
Finally, track your progress and hold yourself accountable. You don’t need to share every detail of your life with others. Share only what you believe in 100%, and don’t let the opinions of others shake your confidence.
Conclusion
A private life is a better life in many ways. By keeping your plans, emotions, and personal details to yourself, you conserve your energy, maintain focus, and protect yourself from negative influences. Privacy fosters self-discipline, enhances your ability to self-validate, and helps you avoid the distractions that can derail your success.
Embrace the power of a more private existence. In doing so, you’ll find greater peace, resilience, and control over your own life. Instead of seeking approval from others, you’ll learn to trust yourself—and that’s the most powerful validation of all.
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