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How to become your own dream girl

How to become your own dream girl, self-acceptance

Are you his dream girl? You might just be. But before we can get there, we need to work on something even more important. And it has to do with the relationship with yourself. Because you are the most important person in your life. Let’s explore what it means and how to become your own dream girl. Be the change you want to see We place a significant emphasis on the desire to be someone's dream girl. Often, we seek this acceptance, validation, and the source of deep, unconditional love from our current or potential partners. Certainly, this is entirely normal, as humans are inherently wired to connect with others; it's a fundamental need. I’d like us to step away from this mindset...

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Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing – Book Review

Be happily married by Abby Medcalf

by Abby Medcalf A renowned psychologist and relationship expert known for her insightful advice on building healthier and happier relationships We often think that we can change somebody when we don't like something about them. Especially in our romantic partners. But do you like when someone tells you what to do? When and how to change? Would you like to be changed by someone against your will just because someone needs you to? Probably not. Relationships thrive on acceptance and this book shows you how to get there and how much power there is in taking responsibility for your own actions, emotions and happiness. This book will help you to connect or reconnect with your partner for a lasting and loving relationship where you...

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How to positive self-talk for a successful life

How to positive self-talk for a happier life, self acceptance, your best friend

The world throws enough judgement and tests your way, so why add more negativity to the mix? Be your own best friend and practise positive self-talk to find more calm, boost your self-confidence and find happiness. It is also a way to solve most of your problems. I know it’s a bold statement, but let’s dig in and see why. What was first? Positive dialogue with yourself creates increased self love and one cannot fully exist without the other one. Did you become happier and more confident as you started talking to yourself positively, or did your mindset change first, followed by increased happiness? According to science it’s the latter. From your mind's perspective, what you don't think about might as well not...

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How to be a more confident woman

How to be a more confident woman, self-acceptance

What does confidence mean to you? Is it when you enter the room and own it? Is it being able to talk to men freely and charm everybody around you? It seems like something we have because of external validation, but the path to confidence starts within you. Let’s explore how to be a more confident woman. Internal or external force? I used to think that I will be more confident when I have more experience or look better. Confidence is very difficult to achieve, as we often think that we need to get lots of validation from others in order to feel like we are crushing it in life. When I envision confident women, Sharon Stone's portrayal in Basic Instinct comes to...

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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment Style

Book attachment styles Amir Levine for better relationships

by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Psychologists and authors known for their work on attachment style theory This book delves into the realm of adult attachment style theory. It sheds light on how our attachment styles influence our romantic relationships. Drawing upon extensive research in psychology, neuroscience, and relationship dynamics, the authors introduce readers to three primary attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, and secure. Above all, the book offers valuable insights for individuals seeking to understand their own attachment style and how it impacts their dating and relationship experiences. It helps the readers identify their attachment style. Moreover, it also provides practical advice on building healthier and more fulfilling connections. By offering strategies to bridge the gap between different attachment styles, "Attached" equips readers...

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10 powerful steps to radical acceptance

steps to radical acceptance, self acceptance, self criticism

We are our harshest critics. How often have you been so tough on yourself that you quit something, gave up midway or not even started all due to your own intrusive thoughts? Let’s explore how to avoid that with these steps to radical acceptance and high levels of resilience. Radical acceptance is a concept from dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) that involves fully and completely acknowledging reality without resistance and judgement, or attempts to change it. It means embracing things as they are, even if they are difficult or painful, in order to reduce suffering and improve emotional well-being. Yeah, so? What does it mean? Examples of radical acceptance By fully embracing what life throws at us, we remove the emotional burden that could potentially...

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How to be your own best friend

How to be your own best friend, self-development for women

Safety instructions on the plane always state that you should secure your own oxygen mask before helping others. Even children! The welfare of those around you relies on your well-being also. This is why you must prioritise taking care of yourself first before you can assist others the best you can. Let’s explore how to be your own best friend. Self-love is a verb We live in a society that rewards deeply self-centred, outgoing, extraverted, result-driven attributes. Nevertheless, we are reproached for exhibiting a touch more self-care and setting our boundaries as if such conduct is a bad thing. I’m sure we all feel a sense of guilt (even if only slightly) when declining a friend or family member's request in favour of...

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